In the Buddhist teaching, Upajjhatthana Sutta, there are five remembrances for contemplation. The one I…
Does this sound familiar?
You have a charged conversation with someone. Then, you play it back in your mind. Perhaps you will relay the conversation in whole or in part to friend or two. Later, more replaying of the conversation. Then, just maybe, you get into another conversation with the original person that resembles the first.
Sometimes we can fall into a conversational loop. It doesn’t have to be a charged conversation, sometimes we just end up in the same conversation with a friend or acquaintance (over and over again). These loops are not only thinking traps but they are actually rehearsals. You are reenforcing a set of responses in your brain,
The only way to move forward is to disrupt the loop. So this week, whenever a conversation leaves you feeling upset or like you have deja vu, insert an interruption. Take a walk. Do a quick meditation, or 5 minute dance party. Anything but play back the recording. If you are really bothered by the conversation try journaling and then disrupt again.
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Gina Razón is the Founder and CEO at GROW Voice LLC, a full-service verbal communication studio in Boston’s Back Bay. She has over two decades of experience as a teacher of voice and speech, is a communication and change facilitator, and is a voraciously curious voice user. Gina has worked professionally as a classical singer for over a decade and more recently as a professional public speaker. For more information on the studio or to book Gina visit www.growvoice.com.