What is doubt really? Uncertainty, sure. Lack of confidence, sometimes. How about a lack of conviction?
I believe that doubt in speaking is something else altogether. Doubt can be an expression of trying to make yourself smaller, perhaps even invisible.
Consider this scenario, you work hard and fight your way onto a committee. You are ecstatic that people will finally get to know you and what you know. Then, at your first opportunity to address the group, you spend the first 5 minutes apologizing for taking up space as you try to show your brilliance. You survive it but no one walks away knowing what makes you exceptional. What happened?
We can point to nerves, lack of preparation, or potentially, an apathetic environment but those factors could only throw us because of what comes before all of that. We are all creations of our upbringing. If you were raised to avoid conflict at any cost, and haven’t addressed it in adulthood, you still avoid conflict. If you learned to conform at any cost, the same thing. Even if you rebelled against every constraint in your past, you may be surprised to see them working in your present.
The disruption today is hard but simple. Take an honest look at what you are telling yourself about yourself in public spaces. Who do you really believe yourself to be? What limiting judgments or beliefs about yourself have you adopted as true? Importantly, this work isn’t for public consumption it is truth-time for you alone. It isn’t necessary that you remember exactly when you learned a behavior. It is important that you call out all the lies and self-limiting beliefs.
Sunlight is truly the best disinfectant. Time to rock the boat.
This Friday at 12:30 pm EDT, Gina will host an office hour over Zoom that will also be live on FB. These will be short voice alignment sessions aimed at voice skills building. Come to the Zoom for the session and/or to ask any questions you have about voice function or practice or just join me over FB Live. Register here or watch it live on the GROW Voice FB page. I hope to see you there.
Gina Razón is the principal voice specialist at GROW Voice LLC, a full-service voice and speech studio in Boston’s Back Bay. She has over 16 years of experience both as a teacher of voice and speech, and a voraciously curious voice user. Gina has worked professionally as a classical singer for over a decade and more recently as a professional public speaker. For more information on the studio or to book Gina visit www.growvoice.com.